What If Its ALL Just A House of Cards?

What if:

*Her mom is battling cancer again?
*Her picture perfect marriage isn't really all it seems?
*Her life looks perfect from the outside, but in reality its not?
*She doesn't really have anyone she can talk to?
*She's helping to pay someone else's bills and doesn't have the extra money for "things?"
*She's fighting for custody of her kids?
*She has to look "together" all the time for her job?
*She struggles with feeling like she's not enough?
*She needs to and wants to know she's needed and important?
*She has a desire to do or be more?
*What she's doing right now is the absolute best that she can?
*She's up at 5:00 a.m. after going to bed at midnight, and can't "just set aside 30 minutes for that workout?"
*She doesn't feel like she fits in?

The list of what if's could go on and on. If you knew all these things would you treat her differently?What if all that she seems from the outside is just a house of cards that feels like it could crumble at any given moment? Could you handle her reality?  How would you react? Could she trust you not to judge her and treat her differently if she were this honest with you?

I'm working on being more real, letting the world see my "house of cards." Some of the things above are about me, some of them aren't.  However, I'm scared. Scared that I'll be judged. Afraid that I'll be deemed less capable. Being raw and honest is the opposite of what we're taught in today's society, particularly in jobs that put us in the public eye, and social media that makes us feel the need to "keep up with the Joneses."

I'm not a perfect wife, mom, boss, sister, friend, daughter, the list goes on and on. I try, but I struggle. I struggle to ask for help because I don't want to be seen as less. I struggle to find trust in someone else not to judge the me for my fears. When did our worth start hanging on the deeds that we do and how full our plate is?

We all have our own house of cards. The wind could blow and make us feel that our whole world will fall just like those cards. Everyone is fighting a battle of some sort. As a society could we acknowledge that? Could we stop judging each other based on those battles? Instead can we embrace that struggles exist and we need each other to make it through them?

I'm currently reading Jill Savage's book Better Together.  The book details why we need each other particularly as moms, but it's applicable to so many of our relationships. We really are "better together."  We really do need each other. God made us to be companions and champions for one another. We each can easily find our own faults.  Let's work on building each other up instead of being the wind that knocks over that house of cards.